|Posted by Lorraine Serra on January 13, 2015 at 9:55 AM|
I grew up being a "people pleaser". As I understand it, it has something to do with birth order. I am the first born of 5 girls. First born children are the center of attention for a good while until another sibling comes along. Being the "apple of your parents' eye" gives you confidence and makes you respond with good behavior which draws more affirmation. Usually.
At the same time, all that love, attention and security can make you concerned about losing that affection if you should make a wrong step. You thrive on the good interactions, and feel shattered when it is withheld or replaced by rejection, commonly known as a "time out" or being "grounded" and sent to your room.
The beauty of being "the apple of my Heavenly Father's eye" is that, though at times disciplined, it is a teaching kind of discipline. It doesn't shatter you because the love behind it is so huge, so forgiving, so restoring.
When I learned to translate that into my adult life, there have been times when I disovered my good intentions towards others have been rejected, misunderstood or just plain ignored. That hurts. That is confusing. Those kinds of responses can make you turn inward and step back, afraid to reach out again for fear of a repeat performance.
But, in Christ, we have all we need. In Christ I am called to follow His instructions, whatever the cost.
I have clung to Isaiah 26:3 through hard times, and times of hurt, anger or loneliness. It is a promise of God through the prophet which says: "God will keep in perfect peace those whose mind is fixed upon Him, because they trust in Him."
It has been my anchor. Perhaps it will help you to step out, too, no matter the response. If I truly believe that I have become the "righteousness of God through Christ Jesus", that is, I am just plain wonderful in God's eyes because Jesus has clothed me in His pure righteousness, then I can trust Him to work it all out in my relationships. I can act, speak, love, advise, help, encourage by His strength and do what Jesus would do, and leave the rest to Him.
Mother Teresa said it well,
"GIve the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give it anyway. For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway."
I thank God that I have received the "mind of Christ". It is this kind of attitude and thinking, loving as He loved, going where others won't, and trusting Him in all of it, that settles the question for me and proves out for me the truth of another powerful scripture which I dearly love.
From Isaiah 32:17 "The work of righteousness will be peace, and the effect of righteousness, quietness and assurance forever."
'Nuff said. Thank you, Lord Jesus Christ! You know my heart. Amen!
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